Does anyone else feel like everyone you know is moving on with their lives and your just stuck?

Question

Recently, more often than I like to admit I have been feeling lost, all my friends have either gone uni or doing work and im just here. Before i left school i had a plan do become a paramedic but now i cant do that due to grades i am being pressured to find another career route for myself and ive had no luck deciding what i want to do im lost, i cant find my first stepping stone. I thought childcare but when i experienced it i wasnt as excited as i use to be and i dont see it in my future but people keep telling me to do to get people off my back but seeing as its an apprenticeship it wouldnt be worth the money especially as i wont be happy long term. I gotten use to the idea of child care but when i did it, it made me feel even more lost i have no idea what i want to do and im being pressured to get a job and its stressful especially when you see everyone else following their plans and moving on. It's like lately ive been feeling not quite empty more like nothing with a hint of stress. I wanna be something and achieve something i just dont know how yet. I dont really speak to anyone about how lost and stuck because sometimes i dont want to be troubling them with my drama but when it comes to my family they dont understand they just say "well you better think of something that you wanna do with your life" and im trying its just hard to know what i want to do for with my life and then its the struggles of achieving it.  I dont know maybe im being silly, who knows x

Answer 1

Hi. No you're not silly. Ive worked as a preschool teacher for several years and just recently i resigned due to new management that caused so many teachers to quit because the management team expects so much from us. However, ever since that, I fell in a deep depression where searching a career is a big hassel otherwise I'll get a dead end job and still feel depressed.  I stay with families and I feel like Im a burden to their lives cause I quit my job, im a single mom with 2 kids, and now its been 3 months now and I havent got a job. I feel very frustrated and an emotional wreck. I been applying to so many jobs and never got anything.  Well now I have an interview coming up. I hope that goes well. I also feel like Im stuck and cant get anywhere in life.  All I can do is pray and hopefully a miracle will help me and my kids overcome these tragic moments. Im not giving up : )  I hope you'll get better and I know you'll get a career that you'll love. Don't give up on your hopes and dont let anyone let you feel that you cant do anything.  Anyone can be someone and it takes prayers and patience.  Eventually you will get there.

Answer 2

Hi,

I've struggled with depression and anxiety, and there's been a lot of improvement for me. I've been taking anti-depressant medications. Also, I've been doing the 12 Steps of Emotions Anonymous.

1: We admitted we were powerless over our emotions--that our lives had become unmanageable.

2: We came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.

3: We made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.

4: We made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.

5: We admitted to God, to ourselves and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.

6: We were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.

7: We humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.

8: We made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to all of them.

9: We made direct amends to such people whenever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.

10: We continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong, promptly admitted it.

11: We sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.

12: Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message and to practice these principles in all our affairs.

Emotions Anonymous, a fellowship of people recovering from emotional problems like anxiety, depression and anger.
http://www.emotionsanonymous.org

My story can be found here:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8EysSD4rGew

May peace be with you,
Anonymous

Answer 3

Hey, there are things that can help.  There are tests that you can do that are, s far as I can tell, fairly long, and then you have a return visit and they will tell you what it seems that you will be good at doing.  Sure, they give you a direction, and you can see if any of those you will like.  But sometimes, they are not what you want to do.

Do you have your First Aid Certificate?  If you do, you can volunteer at St. John's Ambulance or something like that.  You could at least do something of what you want to do, even though you will have to do something else that will support you.

About feeling depressed?  Choosing what you think about is critical.  This is from experience.  Do you have a support other than yourself that you can lean against?  I lean against God, and he is the one that is my support that I can count on.  All the others do have times in which they are not  supports.   Romans 3:23, "For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God."  Psalm 9:17, " The wicked shall be turned into hell, and all the nations that forget God."  Mark 9:44, "Where their worm dieth not, and the fire is not quenched. "  Romans 5:7,8, "For scarcely for a righteous man will one die: yet peradventure for a good man some would even dare to die.  But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us."  Acts 4:12, " Neither is there salvation in any other: for there is none other name under heaven given among men, whereby we must be saved."  Ephesians 2:9, "Not of works, lest any man should boast."  Proverbs 28:13, "He that covereth his sins shall not prosper: but whoso confesseth and forsaketh them shall have mercy."

Answer 4

Hi there, I'm in the UK too, I'm 70 year old grandmother, so have lots of life experience, this could have been me writing when I was 15. Was so lost and lonely, no easy answers, I could give u a free Human Design reading, look up Jovian Archive to see what Human Design is all about, very powerful, defines what your life's mission is and gives you a strategy for achieving it.
Wish I had this info when I was young but hey! Better late than never. Just started a new job last week working for an International Charity, very famous one. First time been on this site so not quite sure how it works.
If possible will give you my phone number and you can ring me.
Good luck
I know I can help have been Foster Carer for nearly 50 years

Answer 5

I completely understand. I'm in my third year in college and still have no idea what I want to do with my life. I only went to college because otherwise I would have had to get a job doing something I didn't want to do. I had to leave all the people I cared about. My advice would be don't ignore your feelings or hide them because with me that led to depression which I am just now getting out of. Do tell people. Even if it isn't a big problem in the scheme of things, if it's disrupting your life it is a legitimate problem. It's okay if you don't know what you want to do long term. Make a short term plan, like a job that's maybe not great, but bearable where you are earning some money, but without a huge commitment so when the opportunity comes along you can leave for something better. What do you love doing in your free time? Could you turn that into a job somehow? Family is important, but you are not owned by them. If you can support yourself do what you think is right, and if not, is there a way to get there?

Sometimes I feel like the world is screwed up, that I'm stuck in a broken system with no way to get ahead, and that everything revolves around money, and there is truth to this, but this way of thinking is a vicious cycle. The more I learn the more I realize that it doesn't matter so much what I do as much as why I do it. I pray for you in Jesus name that an opportunity will come.

Answer 6

what do you enjoy doing? what makes you smile and gives you that fire in your belly ? If you dont know then you havent found it yet .In which case just do anything as its better than nothing and will open doors for you .What i have learned in life is that everything is temporary and change is constant .so as long as you are doing something you will make a difference .you have the power to choose .sometimes there are so many options its confusing .I understand that one only too well .then whatever you choose there is obsticals (cant spell !! )Its better to look at these as challenges to overcome .Maybe try something voluntary to get a feel if you like it or not .when you leave school its a difficult time ,you go from routine and knowing whats expected of you to all of a sudden having to make your own decisions for things and no structure or routine as such .the pressure of people saying do something with your life can be unbearable .These people also need to know how difficult your finding it .Its hard i know .be kind to yourself and trust that your answers will come .I hope this helps even a little bit for you . M