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I recently found out my best friend cuts, she showed me the scars and everything, but i am the only person that knows. SHe told me not to tell her mum especially, what do i do?
Country: New Zealand

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Profile Photo by faith ANGEL22K+ (22.4k points)   3 7 36
Hi, you can be there for her as I am sure you will be.
Do you know why she does this ? has she been doing it for very long ?
There are help lines for people who cut, so you could find one in New Zealand to help her. If you don't know of any or how to find one let me know and I will try to track one down .
She needs to get help before it becomes a habit, it will be harder for her to stop, the longer she leaves it.
You sound like you care about her, and you are a good friend for her to have. If you need more help get back to me, and I will do what I can..Angel Faith
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Profile Photo by HOPE ANGEL24K (66k points)   7 11 38

Please tell her that there are many better/safer ways to cope with her problems, and she need professional help on this. Are you still at school? If yes, a counselor can help her while keeping it confidential if it's really needed.

Here are two links I post earlier:


You are an angel to your friend, please try your best to help and protect her. Be patient, listen, and share only positive points of view. Help her to walk through the steps in the above links and be her friendly reminder.

God Bless You and Your Friend!!

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Profile Photo by Polchies ANGEL3000+ (3.8k points)   1 3 4
This is one of those times where you have to step up and not do what is best for you but what is best for her. If she is truly your bestfriend then you need to tell someone who can get her the help that she obviously needs. Tell her mother, tell a teacher, tell a cop, tell someone who is in a position to help her. Whether she is cutting for release from an inner pain that she is dealing with or as a cry for attention, cutting is cutting and it will almost always lead to death if left untreated. It only takes one time to cut a vein or artery and your bestfriend will lose her life. I know you are probably feeling conflicted right now because she is your best friend and she asked you not to tell anyone, but, if she is your best friend and you want what is best for her then you need to tell someone. If it makes it any easier, she told you not to say anything to anyone especially her mom, so tell someone else, tell a teacher or a cop, again, someone with the authority to do something for her. That way you can feel safe knowing that you didn't tell her mother like she asked but that you did everything you could to help get her the help she needs. This isn't like her asking you to keep her new crush a secret, she is asking you to keep something that could and almost most certainly kill her a secret. You already know the answer because it was directly or indirectly in your question. You know what you have to do and you did before you ever posted this....if you truly love your best friend and want to help her you need to suck up her being bad at you for awhile and tell someone before it is too late and then you are left knowing that you could have done something and you chose not to. Just tell. You know that's the only option she has left you with.

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