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When I was 12 I was around other boys who said anyone over 16 who was still a virgin was a loser and no girl would want them. I turned 16. Then 18, 21, 25. My 26th birthday is coming in 2 months now and I feel like I've missed 10 years of important experience. Like I'm not really a man. I am autistic and that means I am very shy and often extremely anxious. All I can think about sometimes is how I'm going to become a real life 40-year-old virgin because I can't imagine any woman being interested in an inexperienced man my age.

When I see or hear comments about virgins being pathetic or potential mass murderers it hurts. What good is there in trying if that's what people think?
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There's nothing wrong with you you are waiting for someone special when it happens it will be the tight time keep strong girl I'm pulling for you
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Even though it does not sound like you were trying to save yourself for marriage, there are men your age who have saved themselves for marriage. Many women who go to church would understand. Also, you just need to find the right woman because some women would feel closer to you because they would be your first. Do not worry about what some other men would say because you are looking for a woman. If you get out there and date (try your best since you are so shy) you will find that most women are pretty understanding so don't give up.
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Hi,

For years I had mostly anxiety (social anxiety and general anxiety), but for the past several months I've had mostly peace. Part of my continued healing is that I share with others the solution. I've been doing the 12 Steps of Emotions Anonymous.


1: We admitted we were powerless over our emotions--that our lives had become unmanageable.

2: We came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.

3: We made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.

4: We made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.

5: We admitted to God, to ourselves and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.

6: We were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.

7: We humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.

8: We made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all.

9: We made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.

10: We continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong, promptly admitted it.

11: We sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.

12: Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message and to practice these principles in all our affairs.

 
Emotions Anonymous, a fellowship of people recovering from emotional problems like anxiety, depression and anger.
http://www.emotionsanonymous.org

My story can be found here:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8EysSD4rGew

Thanks for reading this.

May peace be with you,
Anonymous
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i will turn 35 at the end of this year, i am a virgin, my friends joke about how for my 40th they'l all be wearing tshirts with arrows stating they're with the 40yr old virgin. Its sad & hurtful to hear such things, i too suffer hughly from anxiety.
If you find the right person it will happen for you when the time is right. Dont put pressure on yourself, enjoy your 20s & relax.
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No it makes you a lady. You have the future better than  most because you have your mind set on marriage for true love and it give a lot of class. Stay true to yourself.
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Nuttin wrong with being a virgin your age,I’m 21 never even kissed or held hands,let alone ****** a girl.if it’s meant to be it’ll happen when the time is right,just hang in there bud

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