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I don't really know where to start.
I haven't spoken to any family or friends regarding these issues as I just don't think they can be open about it all.

About 4 years ago I had met my partner, she was the popular one wearing little tops and skirts. About 6 months later we mapde it official, I was completely devoted to her even before our relationship had begun, even when she was seeing other people.
A month into our relationship and I had seen messages back and forth from her telling a guy how she wished he could be her in her bed and so on. We worked through it.

Then came the little things.... telling me she had a previous name change, uploaded false singing recordings online stating they were her, was born in another country, lived in Africa, was raped, rode motocross professionally, had a mechanics licence and so on. It literally just gets worse. (All have been proven false, some only within the last 2-3 months)

But yet, that isn't why I'm here today.

Before I knew she wasn't actually raped, she had a girl by the name 'Rebekah' message horrible things about her to our neighbour regarding the raping. Continuously following with 'you just want to **** her' you think she's this and that. Trying to get his opinion on her. No dramas. Until I find out it was her sending these messages.
This literally happened the night we got back from her birthday weekend where I proposed to her for months. She would text him when I'm sleeping and delete the messages or meet up with him in the middle of the night.

Mind you, she's promised counless times that there are no more lies, she's telling the truth and so on.

We're also supposed to leave the country to move to canada for a year together in 3 weeks.

Please help me, give me your opinion.
I can't imagine a life without her, without all the lies and deception we were perfect. I just don't know what to do, everything I do is for her. I just don't know if she has stopped the lies and messages through fake accounts. She's had lies going for 3 consistent years, how can she just stop them,? I feel like there's more I need to know..

Thanks for reading, any opinion helps!
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The problem with a lying mate that you have forgiven repeatedly is that you really don't know if they have changed their ways. We teach people how to treat us. If someone lies or cheats and is taken back, they think that they can lie and cheat again and if caught you will forgive them again. On the other hand, rarely people totally change their ways. Love is blind but considering the situation, you want to live with your eyes open to what is really going on. If the lying and cheating is continuing, you will eventually find out but it may be a good idea to not go off to another country with someone who has lied so much. The worse thing would be to get to Canada, find out she is still lying and cheating, and then she leaves you high and dry in another country. I hope for your sake that she has changed her ways but it is not probable for someone who would lie about such serious things and over such a long time to suddenly become a totally honest person, even though you love them and want to be in a relationship with them so badly.
It's just so much more complicated though, every time I think about leaving it takes me 2 seconds until I'm having an anxiety attack. As of today the 25th June, we have flights booked for 2 years in canada on the 10th July, our engagement party is on the 1st of July and were supposed to have big plans for my birthday tomorrow too. It's all too much. I'm too embarrassed I let this happen.
Out of all this, I still love her? How is that possible? I'm so hurt and betrayed, I don't think I'll ever come back from this.

Thank you so much for your reply, means the world :)
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I've struggled with codependency, and there's been a lot of improvement for me. I've been doing the 12 Steps of Celebrate Recovery. Part of my continued healing is that I share with others the solution.

1: We admitted we were powerless over our addictions and compulsive behaviors--that our lives had become unmanageable.

2: We came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.

3: We made a decision to turn our lives and our wills over to the care of God.

4: We made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.

5: We admitted to God, to ourselves and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.

6: We were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.

7: We humbly asked Him to remove all our shortcomings.

8: We made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to all of them.

9: We made direct amends to such people whenever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.

10: We continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong, promptly admitted it.

11: We sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.

12: Having had a spiritual experience as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to others and to practice these principles in all our affairs.

Celebrate Recovery, a fellowship of people recovering from hurts, hang-ups and habits.

My story can be found here:

Thanks for reading this.

May peace be with you,
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I'm sorry to be blunt and maybe it's not what you were hoping to hear but you need to end this relationship. It is completely based on lies and you don't even know this person because she is just a collection of lies.
I know it hurts to hear this because you have feelings for her but you sound like a great person and you deserve to be in a loving relationship with another great person.
It will be difficult to do but I'm sure you will realize after what a good thing it was to save yourself.

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