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I feel in love with the same sex and I don't want to but the feeling's eating me alive, what should I do?

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asked Jun 24, 2017 by anonymous  
I was sexually abused by my uncle when I was young and then by my eldest cousin in later years. Both of them are of same sex as mine. They did not occur simultaneously but I was young during both times. I didn't know what I was doing until I reached the age when I began to understand things. The act was long over when it occured to me what they were doing was wrong. However, it left a strong impact on me. I swear I was in love with a girl in school but some part of me gets aroused when a handsome guy wraps his arms around my shoulder. I developed lust for the same sex and I didn't want to. Years later, I lost my feelings for this girl and fell deeper in love with my roommate and he's of same sex. I love him. But my love somehow made an outward flow because we became really close friends that caused him to avoid me. He didn't know I was in love then. And it's hurts extremely even until now that a year has already passed. I don't want this kind of life. I want to have my own family in the future, my own kids, a wife to make me happy. But I don't want to unlove this roommate of mine. I want him. But I know it's wrong and I know I shouldn't. I know it sounds shallow but I can no longer concentrate in school, I am failing. I'm afraid to hangout with my friends anymore because I don't want to develop another feeling to anyone of them. I had suicide thoughts to be honest. I know what I want and what I should want will never go along on same frequency and I can't stand the idea of being like this for the rest of my life. If there's one thing that's keeping me alive is that I love my family so much they don't deserve to have a son to commit suicide. But I don't know until when I can hold on. I'm tired of not having sleep and crying everything out all night.
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answered Jun 27, 2017 by anonymous  
Hi,

I've struggled with hurts, hang-ups and habits, and there's been a lot of improvement for me. I've been doing the 12 Steps of Celebrate Recovery. Part of my continued healing is that I share with others the solution.


1: We admitted we were powerless over our addictions and compulsive behaviors--that our lives had become unmanageable.

2: We came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.

3: We made a decision to turn our lives and our wills over to the care of God.

4: We made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.

5: We admitted to God, to ourselves and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.

6: We were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.

7: We humbly asked Him to remove all our shortcomings.

8: We made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to all of them.

9: We made direct amends to such people whenever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.

10: We continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong, promptly admitted it.

11: We sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.

12: Having had a spiritual experience as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to others and to practice these principles in all our affairs.


Celebrate Recovery, a fellowship of people recovering from hurts, hang-ups and habits.
http://locator.crgroups.info

My story can be found here:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Nurr8WKNUck

Thanks for reading this.

May peace be with you,
Anonymous
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answered Jun 27, 2017 by anonymous  
The fact that you were abused by your uncle and your cousin is horrible - idk how they can live with themselves knowing that they did that to you. However your sexuality is separate from that abuse. You thought you were in love with that girl because you felt like you HAD to be in love with a girl. The fact of the matter is you don't. I'm gay too and I went through the same thing. I tried to deny it and only hurt myself. I kept getting too close to straight male friends and ended up losing them because I, without realizing it, started treating them like a boyfriend. I've now accepted my sexuality and met other gay guys and it's been so amazing. You need to do the same - love yourself and accept yourself and go meet some guys that can love you like you deserve!
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answered Jul 8, 2017 by ToveLove  
Hi, it's okay to Love. I know how it feels trust me. Suicide is never an option. You need to talk to someone close to you and open up about it. The reason why it felt so lonely is because you're keeping it all to yourself. I'm sure you have someone you're comfortable with that you can share it too.

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