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I like someone 3-4 years older than me. Any help? (Warning: Not a Serious Issue)

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asked Dec 9, 2017 by Anonymous Girl  
Hello. I hope you're having a fantastic day! First of all, before continuing, please be warned that this is not a serious matter like suicide and abuse. It's just a regular problem. You can keep reading if you want, or you can click back and help someone in a more serious situation.  Otherwise, here's my problem: I needed some help/advice. See, I'm currently 14 and I've started liking a 17-year-old guy. We both are kind of good friends. I've known him for more than a year. Now, the the question I'm pondering is that is he too old for me? Because someone told me it is not okay to like a person 3-4 years older than you. They say it's not normal. Now, the answer could be a bit clear since my own parents are 3 years apart, but things change overtime. So I wanted to know, taking the time and century in consideration, is he too old for me? Matters like height are not a problem, really. I mean, I'm just as tall as my 16-year-old sister. The age is the problem. Hope I can get some help from the grown-ups here. I'd ask my parents, but it's awkward.

Thank you very much,

Anonymous Girl

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Profile Photo answered Dec 10, 2017 by HOPE ANGEL24K (62,290 points)   6 11 36
Dear Anonymous Girl,

My answer is that he is too young and same to you for worrying about age difference.

Love is wonderful, but it is a commitment that most likely to be broken at this young age. Friendship is one of the most beautiful things. It could be long-term and very rewarding. I strongly suggest that you keep this beautiful friendship and enjoy the great experience at this age.

BTW, it is not awkward to ask your parents questions like this. They would love to hear from you.
commented Dec 10, 2017 by Anonymous Girl  
Thank you so much for this wonderful reply! It was short, but really powerful. However, I will still think about the whole part about telling my parents, and all.  = )

-Anonymous Girl
commented Dec 15, 2017 by anonymous  
Hi to both of you,
I agree with the reply above, at this point both of you are not capable of making decisions about commitment and I don't think you should have to! At this age it should be fun and chill. I guess it depends on how you define dating but to me it is dating to be in a permanent and committed relationship, or you are dating to break up.
Are you ready to get married? Live together? Girl you got your whole life ahead of you with plenty of boys trust me!!
Also your parents would love to hear how you feel and what you think, they expect you to like a wide variety of people because that's how they were when they were young!!
Good luck sweetheart and relax, you have time!!

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