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Is there any group who can help us figure out how to get a 57 year old couple,who still love each other life back on track?

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asked 4 weeks ago by Lakeshaker@hotmail.com  
We married in 1983 had a ,son a year later,Very happy.We both were employed and did okay.1984 we bought our first home,it was a fixer upper,but I was pretty handy that way,i spent the next 28 years working then enjoyed coming home an fixing things up.When my son turned 13 I took him under my wing and him and I really went to town on it.New walls New windows,not just replacement I  mean relocating and resizing the window stuffing it with tons of insulation r-maxing installed brand new vinyl siding.It turned out beautiful.So much pride when you do it yourself.All the way keeping the mortgage to date.This house and our investment into it was in our mind going to be part of our retirement,along with my 401 at work and my sweeties profit sharing at her work.Never in our time was either of us ever out of work.In the year 2001 I started having pains come and go followed by weakness in my left arm,shoulder and just.brushed it off as it probably was just over straneing(heavy equipment mechanic tractor trailers)Licensed certified diesel Tech for Cummings,Detroit,and Catapillar. My wife worked full time as a pharmacist tech.We bought a pleasure boat and a camper later,and any vacation time we would take the boy who really enjoyed it ,along with our friends,and have a blast at the Lake.Happy Life.Unfortunetly my pains were comming more often and lasting a little longer,this was starting to intefer with work and pleasure.I went to see a Doc who said I had a few  Disc in my neck out of wack and there where some pinched nerves and some degenerative disc disease which can not be operated on.He started me on some kind of morpaine but came to the conclusion tramadol should treat the pain but there was no fix.In and about this time my poor wife was having trouble eating.I ran her to UPMC pittsburgh were they found a diverticulum on here eshophiguis.She has had it removed 3 times over the years only for it to return again.UPMC says iff they have to do it again she will lose most of here esophiquis and will need a feeding tube.I and her both retuned to work.I struggled as long as I could But was missing days way to many the boss was okay with it but I wasn't A employee has to be dependable and I was Quickly Becoming less dependable.This was killing my ego and I used to have a big one.My son had taken his wife and grandson along with my wife down to the lake on a weekend,I stayed home was to sore.He got into some bad water were as my wife lifted of here seat and come back down on the floor in an excruciating scream and needed helped out of the boat. She couldn't go to work the next day,so went to the docs to find she had crushed 2 vertabraes in her lumbar spine,and again told no surgery will help.She stayed down for 6 weeks and was able to return to work but still then and now in a good bit of pain.know me on the other kept fighting to get to work for the next 6 years which know it is 2008 and could no longer get there.Thought Id better seek ssd and my dr. agreed said this will only get worse with age.I applied for my SSD in2008 not knowing the banks and Stockmarket was in trouble,Well It took about 2 years to go through the social secuirty system,and after paying 28 years faithfully on our mortgage the bank kept moving to foreclose on us,I couldn't believe it.They foreclosed 3 times each time we would dip in our savings and get it out .Each time it cost me and my wife 3600.00 finely broke us and we were forced to leave.we lost our nest egg and had to run to a abandon shack that was left on my parents property its falling down needs bulldozed.If thats not bad enough my 401 was taken in my companies bankruptsy last statement I recieved from showed mine at 330000.00 GONE.The same happened to my wives profit sharing ALL GONE>no explanation.Today we sit in this shack cant afford gas food have no teeth can't go anywhere abandon by friends relatives all dead my wife is battling extreme depression anxiety with major panic attacks.Shes on her appeal for her ssd and being starved out.who can we talk to please we didn't do any of this to ourself.Actually disscussions of mutual self destruction is talked about and whats really scarry its getting easier to talk about not crying anymore but scarred then   HELP PLEASE PUT US IN THE RIGHT DIRECTION(WE HAVE NO ONE) thank you
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Profile Photo answered 3 weeks ago by B. ANGEL7000+ (7,240 points)   5 16
edited 3 weeks ago by B.
Friend, may God bless you and your wife. Sorry that things have deteriorated so much in your quality of life.  It does not seem fair that people like you and your wife who did everything right in their younger years have everything go so terribly wrong in their later years. You are wrong however when you say you have no one.  You have each other that is. You know the love of your life, the love you took as a wife, the mother of your children, yes her. She stands by your side and never swade for an instant. There is also  another out there who is wondering why you haven't called him for help. That is our creator. God loves you and your wife and he finds you very special. Yes everything seems to have gone wrong but make no mistake this was not brought upon you by God. The evil one is consistent in trying to steal good souls from our creator.  If you read the story of Jobe in the bible, it says that God had so much trust in him that he would never give up his faith no matter what that he allowed the evil one to test him. Throughout all his life, Jobe suffered. People who knew him could not believe that even in his last days of life he was witnessing of God's love for mankind. See not only was Lucifer not able to turn Jobe and steal his soul, but others that knew and heard of Jobe,  were brought to God by his unwavering faith. It is said that God felt bad for allowing this to happen to Jobe  and stated he would never allow those you belong to him  to be tested by the evil one like that again.  People continue to be plague with dastardly deeds but it is not from God. People need to get right with God and not be afraid to have a good one on one chat with him. Reaching him is as simple as saying:  In the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit. Then take Jesus up on the words he stated while on earth:  whatever is asked of the Father in my name shall be given.  You need to pray in the name of Jesus and tell him you love him and need his help. Then you have to trust in him that he will help you.  I am 62 Years old, I have M.S., several discs in my back deteriorated, blind in one eye and numerous other health problems.  I have been put through the gambit very much as you were but it did get better. My wife had 2 heart attacks and a stroke several years ago but hey we are both still here. Financially we too were a bust and like you we seemed to lose it all.. Social Security Disability benefits kicked in when we contacted a lawyer. We are starting to get back on our feet so to speak. We don't put much value on the world's views of acquiring  too much material worth. Rather we spend our days together as best friends do. When she is down I try to cheer her up and when I am down she does the same for me. We know that soon now our Lord Jesus will  soon spare us the evils of this world and take us up to paradise to be with his Father and the Holy Spirit.  Yes times are tuff but trust me tuff times don't last, just tuff people do.  With God all things are possible invite him into you and watch what happens.  Take care and may God send you blessings beyond beliefs. Miracles happen everyday. Your friend papasmurf, A.K.A. Rick B.

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