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How do I let go of a boy who keeps hurting me, but I fall for him so desperately? (Mildly Serious)

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asked Jan 27, 2018 by Loser :(  
reshown Jan 28, 2018
So there's this boy I've been in love with for like 2 years... However, he isn't the nicest person around. I don't know if he intends to hurt me or is even aware of it, but he just hurts me. Yes, I'm a teen and so is he (more precisely, I'm a teen-girl). But it doesn't matter; I'm hurt badly and wanna end it. How do I let go of him? We're  "best friends" as he says, but I think it's just me who's trying to keep the friendship alive. When I stop texting him, THEN he thinks about sending me a message. Whenever he talks about his problems, I always try to cheer him up. When I talk about my problems, he just excuses himself or says something vague such as "oh," or "okay." I don't know what's on his mind, but I don't want this trash anymore. I want to let go of him. I wanna know how to break it to him that he has hurt me enough even though I love him desperately. I don't know how he's gonna react, but I know it's for the best. Just help me. End my suffering. You don't know how serious my feelings are for him, and how badly it hurts when he just doesn't care about me. :( I've even self-harmed because of him; I feel like I'M the problem and he's right. And he might be... I'm lost.

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answered Jan 29, 2018 by anonymous  
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Try not to get yourself down.

Maybe if you spend some time apart you will be able to help eacher in the long run.

If you are ment to be together he will understand your need to find yourself
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answered Jan 30, 2018 by anonymous  

I've struggled with hurts, hang-ups and habits, and there's been a lot of improvement for me. I've been taking anti-depressant medications prescribed by a doctor. Also I've been working the 8 Principles of Celebrate Recovery. Part of my continued healing is that I share with others the solution. The 8 Principles of CR are:

1) Realize I’m not God. I admit that I’m powerless to control my tendency to do the wrong thing, and that my life has become unmanageable.
2) Earnestly believe that God exists, that I matter to him, and that he has the power to help me recover.
3) Consciously commit my life and will to Christ’s care and control.
4) Openly examine and confess my faults to God, to myself and to someone I trust.
5) Voluntarily submit to every change God wants to do in my life, and humbly ask him to remove my character defects.
6) Evaluate all my relationships. Offer forgiveness to those who have hurt me and make amends for harm I’ve done to others, except when to do so would harm them or others.
7) Reserve a daily time with God for self-examination, Bible reading and prayer in order to know God and his will for my life and to gain the power to follow his will.
8) Yield myself to God to be used to bring this good news to others, both by my example and by my words.

Celebrate Recovery, a fellowship of people recovering from hurts, hang-ups and habits. To find a group:

My recovery story, plus other information for life, can be found here:

Thanks for reading this.

May peace be with you,
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answered Jan 30, 2018 by maresh  
Poor you

Just remember there are plenty more, better boys in the world. You need to take control and dump him.

The perfect boy will come along when you least expect it and you will be able to laugh at this situation.

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