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So may problems in life, inlaws hate me,  I wish they would treat me  the same like there own son or with little respect and care but they always treat me like a outsider.
We live in one house but like strangers unless they feel they want to talk or the just ignore me like I am not here.
I have spoken to my husband many times about the issue but he seems to be confused and say "leave it" but I feel inside that he always cares about his parents more, so this creates so much tension in our relationship.
 I have been through so much with them I feel I cant be happy anymore, I try and try to have good time and smile laugh but inside I feel like I am empty.

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It sounds as though you are living with your in-laws?  Is that correct? So you and your partner are living in their house - their rules? Perhaps this is because of financial necessity or is it that he likes living with his family? You are not specific about the circumstances. It would help to know more. Have you close friends or relatives nearby who could support you?

Your suggestion is they disapprove of you in some way, but is that true? I'm no counsellor but it might be the disappointment of their son is being transferred to you because it's easier to be harsh with a stranger than your own family.

Take him aside and tell him(if he'll listen) that you find it hard living under one roof. Or gently appraoch one (of both) of his parents- whover seems most sympathetic and outline your frustration in the nicest possbile manner. You may be surprised at the results. The problem may not be you at all.  However you have to be realistic and appraise your behaviour to understand if you are or aren't causing friction. Sometimes we behave badly when cornered and perhaps you might not be at your best? If so, don't beat yourself up about it, the circustances may be stressful making you behave less rationally than you'd like. Whatver the reasons, you must try and see the issue from a detached view point and identify where you have real concerns from those that are imagined.

Any which way, your partner must certainly put you both first and you must both stand united; he is in this relatiosnhip too and your happiness should matter to him.
Thanks your reply
Yes we live together under one roof but yhd house is not own only by my inlaws my husband and I are owners. But they helped us with the deposit and left the rest to us to pay off.  Its too complicated :s  im very sure  they
 hate me because they say im not good enough or not like them.  My inlaws got upset because I asked help to hold my young son while doing my other kids hair. For this I nearly got a hot fry pan on my head while my kids were in my feet and holding one.
I live here together because I wish they would accept me as I am
And they will realize what they done. But they are so selfish they dont care at all. My husband always says his stuck in between.i love him and want to see him happy.
  I not sure what to do :(

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