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My daughter just turned 18 years old & has been accepted to the Honors College at U of A but we are so poor that I can't even afford the bare minimum of what she'd need in order to be able to eat.  I feel so terrible because she's worked so hard taking all AP classes, taking community college courses in the summer, & is so very self motivated, my only real job with her has been sometimes to stop her from working herself into the ground.  I had a scholastic scholarship to ASU when I graduated from my high school, and my daughter has many scholarship funds lined up as well, but she has had a series of  unfortunate events that started with being abused by her father, developing anorexia, PTSD, anxiety, and now suspected bipolar disorder(?). Yes she has seen many therapists and is under the care of one now..another reason we are struggling so hard is my mother died a few years ago on Mother's Day. We all lived together in a home the family had owned since 1974 , but she got sick with cancer and we were losing our house to forclosure while she suffered a stroke, and our entire world was turned inside out. Meanwhile in July the kids' father abrubtly quit paying child support, so we've had nothing . For my daughters birthday this week (08/08) she got nothing at all. For the last 10 years her father & his extended family has never even sent a card or anything. She won her first award from the mayor of Tempe when she was just a kindergartner. .I am so very very proud of her and I want more than anything to be able to support her but there are no job opportunities in the small town where I live. Additionally the air conditioning stopped working in the little Honda that belonged to my mother & I have no way of getting it fixed. My daughter's incredibly stubborn (it's inherited!) & insists she IS going to college somehow even if she has to eat cat food.
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Yes, it is very important for your daughter to go to college to change this cycle of poverty. Remember that you and your daughter are love and this love will create strength for her.  Be proud of how smart she is and that you had something to do with it. Close your eyes and envision her getting her diploma and finding a career that will change the course of her life. I am sending you strength and courage.
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She should be able to get the PELL grant to help with this problem. That is what it is for. Your daughters school counselor should work with her to get all the funds she needs to get into and stay in college as long as she needs to be there.  When it comes to all of the mental problems she is facing, tell her to hang in there. As far as I know all colleges have a student support program to help students with disabilities such as these. They help with test anxiety and tutoring if needed.  On a side note, you may have to move or commute to another place to find work. Good luck with everything.

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