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I have cheated on my wife with a guy. I told her. She stays with me I think because of my pension. She would have very little even if she got half of my pension in a divorce settlement. I contracted HPV and passed it on to her which made her very mad and sad. It was a terrible thing to do but I did not do it on purpose. I had prostrate cancer surgery recently which makes me impotent and with ED.
    

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Profile Photo by goodwill ANGEL24K (33.8k points)   5 12 59
At this point, I think you need to consider your wife's feelings more than your own. Have you told her exactly when you found out you were gay? I suspect you knew prior to the marriage. I can't say all this is fair to her. Do you care about her? I cannot imagine living with someone for 42 years and not caring about them. I am sure she cares for you too.

Your first priority should be to define your relationship. Exactly what are you to each other? Are you companions? Are you friends? Are you roommates? .... Then you should be completely honest with her and tell her everything. Tell her how you feel, and then ask her what she thinks. Be honest with each other.

There is nothing wrong with being gay, nor should you feel ashamed. But I think you know your conduct has not been the best. You have been living a lie, and I can understand wanting to be yourself. But you know you have acted inappropriately. You denied your true identity and cheated. I am sure she feels betrayed. You may not have meant to give her HPV, but try to understand her. If you are attracted to men, then why are you with her (how else could the HPV have been transmitted)? Did you even take precautions when you had your affair?

With that said, we all make mistakes. I am not trying to be harsh. I just want you to objectively see the situation. At least you told her. Now you have to figure out how to fix it. There is no clear answer here. It all depends on what you and your wife can live with, and whether or not you want to salvage the relationship for the RIGHT reasons (and no, money is not one of them).

FYI If she divorces you she is entitled to more than just half your pension, including spousal support. You must provide and keep her in the manner of living to which she is accustomed during the marriage.

I see this happened over a year. I truly hope you guys reached a solution that is fair to both of you.
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1. Anima Christi

Soul of Christ, sanctify me; Body of Christ, save me; Blood of Christ, inebriate me; Water from the side of Christ, wash me; Passion of Christ, strengthen me; O good Jesus, hear me; within Thy wounds, hide me; let me never be separated from Thee; from the evil one, deliver me; at the hour of my death, call me and bid me come to Thee, that with Thy saints, I may praise Thee forever and ever. Amen.

2. Prayer Against Malefice from the Greek Ritual

God, our Lord, King of ages, All-powerful and All-mighty, You Who made everything and Who transform everything simply by Your will. You Who in Babylon changed into dew the flames of the ‘seven-times hotter’ furnace and protected and saved the three holy children. You are the doctor and the physician of our soul. You are the salvation of those who turn to You.

We beseech You to make powerless, banish, and drive out every diabolic power, presence, and machination; every evil influence, malefice, or evil eye and all evil actions aimed against Your servant [name of person/s]. Where there is envy and malice, give us an abundance of goodness, endurance, victory, and charity.

O Lord, You Who love man, we beg You to reach out Your powerful hands and Your most high and mighty arms and send the angel of peace over us, to protect us, body and soul. May he keep at bay and vanquish every evil power, every poison or malice invoked against us by corrupt and envious people.

Then, under the protection of Your authority may we sing, in gratitude, ‘The Lord is my salvation; whom should I fear? I will not fear evil because You are with me, my God, my strength, my powerful Lord, Lord of peace, Father of all ages.”

Yes, Lord our God, be merciful to us, Your image, and save your servant [name of person/s] from every threat or harm from the evil one, and protect him/her by raising him/her above all evil. We ask You this through the intercession of our Most Blessed, glorious Lady, Mary ever Virgin, Mother of God, of the most splendid archangels and all Your saints. Amen!

3. Prayer for Deliverance

My Lord, you are all powerful, you are God, you are Father. We beg you through the intercession and help of the archangels Michael, Raphael and Gabriel, for the deliverance of our brothers and sisters who are enslaved by the evil one. All saints of Heaven, come to our aid.

From anxiety, sadness and obsessions, we beg You. Free us, O Lord. From hatred, fornication, envy, we beg You, Free us, O Lord. From thoughts of jealousy, rage, and death, we beg You, Free us, O Lord. From every thought of suicide and abortion, we beg You, Free us, O Lord. From every form of sinful sexuality, we beg You, Free us, O Lord.

From every division in our family, and every harmful friendship, we beg You, Free us, O Lord. From every sort of spell, malefic, witchcraft, and every form of the occult, we beg You, Free us, O Lord.

Lord, You Who said, “I leave you peace, My peace I give you,” grant that, through the intercession of the Virgin Mary, we may be liberated from every evil spell and enjoy your peace always. In the name of Christ, our Lord. Amen.

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