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My step kids are 18, I have raised them since they were 10, they are threatening me, calling me names and their Dad does nothing, they live with us and have no place to go.They cus me out, call me names, steal from me, destroy things and their Dad does nothing about it, I think he is afraid of them also. I tried kicking them out, calling the police, and they do nothing, they won't even arrest them for fighting. These kids are scary
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Protect yourself. If your husband wont stand with you and based on your judgment you are in danger or simply being mentally pushed in unacceptable directions, its time to get out. This doesn't necessarily mean you split from your husband. You split from the house. And see what happens. Make sure you let your husband know you feel unsafe as the motivation for your actions. There are other alternatives. You could seek mediation counseling and things like that. I'm not,sure how receptive these parties would be to that approach. But first and foremost, don't get hurt. My best to you
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Thank you so much, I hear these kids tell me how bad I am and how everything is my fault and of course I started to believe them however, I am 55 years young and know in my heart if I were a bad person they would not be here, I invited them into my home tried to raise them for the last 8 years failed miserable no support, Dad rewarded them for bad behavior. Even though it is my house it is not a home which has given me the strength to walk out.
Profile Photo by justdavenow ANGEL18K+ (21.9k points)   4 6 16
Huge step. So now you take stock of your situation. Finances, mental outlook, prospects and possibilities. Are you employed, and can this walkout go on indefinitely? What was the situation between you and husband when you left? You probably want to stay in contact. Would it be good for you to speak to a therapist after this trauma? Are you religious? If so, this is a good time to have some heartfelt conversations with God. Great listener God, and responses vary but can be very enlightening. As the children are 18, its now time that the dust can settle and they can transition out of the home. Its time, will dad encourage this? Perhaps the two of you can get marriage counseling. It never hurts to "talk". Please stay in touch and be well. Congratulations on getting to safety. I will watch for your messages.

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