I need guidence, loosing hope

Question

Hey, well I hoped I wouldn't be back here, however there was a likelihood it was inevitable ... I don know what the point of trying again is ... All it do is fail and dissapoint myself. I've helped so many other people and they have gone on to love much better lies than me. I suffer from panic attacks and have an on/off relationship with my gf that only upsets me more I just got her mum to like me and then she ends it. She says that she love me however I just don't know ... I keep loosing faith in people and in doing so exclude myself more ... Soon I won't have anyone to turn to ant I will be alone ... And that's my worst fear ... So I sometimes feel it's better to end it before I get there ... But oh well ... I just keep loosing more of myself and more contact with the people I love ....
Alex

Answer 1

Hi, sorry to know you are feeling down. I hope you don't mind me being honest and direct. I think you deserve a better lover. If she cannot take you seriously and hurts you continuously, please find someone better who truly deserves your love and care. Judging from what you wrote, you are a caring person who is willing to help others. You have not given up on people or life yet. Now you are sad and need some time to chill out. There are many ways of recovery. Turning to people for support is one, but temporarily withdrawing from others and having some reflection and self-healing time is another way of recovery too. If you feel that what you need now is a little break from things and people, please do not feel bad to take some time off to self-heal. Makeing a short trip somewhere may be a good idea. Travelling will help you see new things and get a different perspective of your situations. But when the sadness and healing are over, please remember to gather strength, stand up, and walk on. It is a bit like making a long long journey. When you feel tired, you do need to take a little rest, right? So please do not lose hope yet. After the little break, do be brave and reach out again. There are many pleasant surprises ahead of you. And when the time comes, you will encounter the person who truly deserves your care. Take care and best wishes, H.