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i met this guy over a month ago and he is really great and we hit it off straight away 2 weeks ago we made it official and started dating, he has 2 kids and i met them for the first time on friday night. we had an awesome weekend and i left him in pretty good spirits. on sunday he went to his daughters birthday party and had a good time we were messaging and talking it was awesome. on monday he woke up with a swallon ankle and decided not to go to work so i said if you need me let me know i get a message back saying how he hates that he hasnt seen his kids in a long time and that he has to put them first i told him i was ok with this and i would help him every step of the way. he then didnt message me at all until last night when he told me that he wasnt sure what he wanted anymore he knew he had to get his head right before he could help others and deleted me as a friend on facebook. he is sending mixed messages and i want to know what i can do to reassure him that i am here for him i sent him a few messages today but he has just ignored me i have spoken to his sister too and she said she has no idea whats going on with him hes been acting weird towards her too. should i give him time to sort things out? i dont want to loose him
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Profile Photo by anipale14 (140 points)  
I believe what you should do is look for him.. Look for him & sit him down & say it to his face how happy he makes you.. Maybe then he will realize that whats infront of him will let him take away all his sorrows & pain away.. If you don't tell him anything & give him "time" reassure himself then it'll be too late.. I say find him, speak your mind, & let him know that you wont leave his side.
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Profile Photo by Fjekd (140 points)   1
All you need to do is send a nice card with a written note saying little more than:
"I will always here when you want my help"

If he wants that help he'll be in touch.

Some relationships can be like that car you love so much.
It looks gorgeous.
It attracts a lot of attention.
When it goes, it's amazing.

But you never get to your destination without spending hours waiting for a recovery truck and yet another garage bill.

If you don't have the funds to keep repairing it you may have to park it in the orchard until such time as it becomes worth the investment.

Nobody likes to have to give up on something they have feelings for but if that thing or person doesn't respond you have no choice but wait until the time is right.

The more you try to make it work the more you will keep damaging it.

If you have the funds then invest.

If you don't, or the repairs never work out.... Well, the orchard is as good a place as any.

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