How do I find myself when life happens and I keep sinking?

Question

I am severely depressed and I just want to find myself.  I feel like I used to be this really great person and I just can't find her anymore.  I have a 9 year old daughter, who I love with all my heart.  I also have a 2 month old daughter.  I am a single mother to both.  The baby's father is married, but he told me from the beginning that he was on his way out of his marriage and it was very toxic.  I never thought that he would disassociate himself from his daughter, as well as me.  I truly felt like I could be that person that I lost so many years ago.... when we were together, I was able to be myself and being with him I felt so good about myself.  Then it all failed and my daughter has never met her father.  I decided to just accept that men are all the same, I'm unlovable, and I will just be alone forever.... I truly feel this way, but a part of me just wants there to be one good man that will just be good to me... I wish he was real.  I just feel horrible about life and the way that it is going for many reasons, much more than the love aspect.  I am so thankful for my girls and I try to be a positive person, but sometimes I just can't help but revert back into my depressive hole.  Back to my question.... how do I find my true self?

Thank you in advance for your time!

Answer 1

Don't blame ur self for someone,s else who is very selfish... ive been in your position too... many years ago life may look bleak at moment but your learning from this experience you have eyes on the front of your face to go forward  never look back make a small change each day and tell yourself every morning you are worthy you are speical and write down all the things you need from a man and don't, wavier from it write it on a full moon and buy rose quartz ...I promise you when you love yourself you will find love and all men are not the same from experience I know you just haven't met ur soulmate yet but your soul needs too heal first visualize a gate step through don't,t look back xx