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I have lost everything. I haven't been able to find employment in over five years, I've had to rely on food stamps and Medicaid and practically begging from friends to support my family and if that's not bad enough, my 13 year old daughter has falsely accused me of molesting her in order to get out of the house and move in with her mother who don't want her. I am innocent but nobody's willing to listen. The child services took my kids into foster care, split them up and convinced them it was all true. They took my daughter to a safe exam and found no evidence but that doesn't matter, they are charging me in the next day or two with molestation. My wife is divorcing me, my kids hate me, my community thinks I'm a  monster and all because of a lie. I can't afford an attorney and all the local ones tell me to just accept it and hope for a plea deal. I can't plead out to  a crime I never committed. I am tired of trying, I can't deal with this much longer.
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This is one of the worst situations I can imagine a person being in, and I cannot even begin to imagine how awful it must be for you. This only advice I can give you is my honest opinion of what I know I would do in a heartbeat if I was in your situation and thats fight the case in court and do not admit to anything you haven't done. You are innocent so there will be no physical evidence and it sounds like any witness evidence from your daughter (if she would testify) will be highly unreliable and easy for your defence to cast doubt on.

In relation to your wider situation what I would do "myself" is to move away from the area anyway possible and begin again elsewhere after the charges have been dropped. Then try to make contact with any family you still wish to have contact with from a distance so that you can get some perspective/recovery from the situation yourself.

My heart goes out to you, and I hope you can find the strength to recover from this.
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Profile Photo by HOPE ANGEL24K (64.3k points)   7 11 38
I have great sympathy for what has happened to you. In these trying times, it is very important to ask yourself what is your ultimate goal.

If one of your goal is to ensure the happiness and success of your kids, then maybe a foster family can provide a better environment for them at this time, considering your current financial situation and poor relationship with them.

This also gives you a better chance to get back on track. In the near future, you can always fight to get them back. You will have a much better chance at that time and your kids will be more mature to understand you and your situation.

If you have never commit the crime accused, you should stand and fight for your innocence.

Talk with the lawyer about your goals and find the best path to move forward.

Please never give up hope!
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Profile Photo by goodwill ANGEL24K (33.8k points)   5 12 59
Hi James
I am sorry you are going through so much. Let's deal with the legal stuff first ... Do not take a plea deal if you feel you are not guilty. It will be harder to appeal. You are entitled to a defense attorney appointed by the state. How great of a representation you will receive ultimately depends on the person. My suggestion would be to make search of different custody lawyers and see if one of them will take your case pro bono (for free). Many lawyers do. You are just going to have to hustle and look. You can also enter an Alford plea, where you state you are innocent but agree that the prosecution has enough evidence to convict you beyond a reasonable doubt. With that said, again let me reiterate if you do not feel comfortable, DO NOT DO IT. Any type of plea connotes guilt and it will be harder in the long run. Besides, you do not want there to be any doubt with your children. My best suggestion is to really hustle and find an attorney who will represent you. You need to call into question how your daughter was questioned. I only know of this site, and I am not sure if they are only located in Los Angeles, but they would likely be better able to help you. http://fightchildprotectiveservices.com/10-ways-to-beat-cps-or-los-angeles-dcfs/ There is a lot of valuable information on the site. You will be fighting the prosecution and the guardian ad litem (your child's court appointed attorney) so you really need to be prepared.

I truly hope you can find work. I know that there are job listings on www.usajobs.gov As for your wife, I don't know her. I can't say what she hopes to gain. But divorce is not the end of the world. It is the end of a relationship only.

But, I am sure with accusation of abuse looming over you, it seems everything is just caving in on you. You need to hang on. You owe it to your children. They deserve to know the truth. You can't end it with them thinking the worse of you. I can't imagine you thinking of anything else. Please go to the fight child protective services site, and I hope you can find the strength and answers to prove your innocence.
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Profile Photo by dolphin007 ANGEL24K (279k points)   7 7 12
Verses in the Holy Bible about healing:


Isaiah 41:10 ESV / 376 helpful votes

Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.

Jeremiah 17:14 ESV / 314 helpful votes

Heal me, O Lord, and I shall be healed; save me, and I shall be saved, for you are my praise.

1 Peter 2:24 ESV / 277 helpful votes

He himself bore our sins in his body on the tree, that we might die to sin and live to righteousness. By his wounds you have been healed.

Jeremiah 33:6 ESV / 262 helpful votes

Behold, I will bring to it health and healing, and I will heal them and reveal to them abundance of prosperity and security.

Isaiah 53:5 ESV / 251 helpful votes

But he was wounded for our transgressions; he was crushed for our iniquities; upon him was the chastisement that brought us peace, and with his stripes we are healed.

Psalm 103:2-4 ESV / 231 helpful votes

Bless the Lord, O my soul, and forget not all his benefits, who forgives all your iniquity, who heals all your diseases, who redeems your life from the pit, who crowns you with steadfast love and mercy,

James 5:15 ESV / 209 helpful votes

And the prayer of faith will save the one who is sick, and the Lord will raise him up. And if he has committed sins, he will be forgiven.

James 5:14 ESV / 150 helpful votes

Is anyone among you sick? Let him call for the elders of the church, and let them pray over him, anointing him with oil in the name of the Lord.

James 5:16 ESV / 143 helpful votes

Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working.

3 John 1:2 ESV / 126 helpful votes

Beloved, I pray that all may go well with you and that you may be in good health, as it goes well with your soul.

Proverbs 17:22 ESV / 114 helpful votes

A joyful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones.

Matthew 10:1 ESV / 111 helpful votes

And he called to him his twelve disciples and gave them authority over unclean spirits, to cast them out, and to heal every disease and every affliction.

Psalm 147:3 ESV / 110 helpful votes

He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.

Matthew 10:8 ESV / 107 helpful votes

Heal the sick, raise the dead, cleanse lepers, cast out demons. You received without paying; give without pay.

Deuteronomy 7:15 ESV / 97 helpful votes

And the Lord will take away from you all sickness, and none of the evil diseases of Egypt, which you knew, will he inflict on you, but he will lay them on all who hate you.

Philippians 4:19 ESV / 86 helpful votes

And my God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus.

Psalm 41:3 ESV / 85 helpful votes

The Lord sustains him on his sickbed; in his illness you restore him to full health.

Proverbs 4:20-22 ESV / 71 helpful votes

My son, be attentive to my words; incline your ear to my sayings. Let them not escape from your sight; keep them within your heart. For they are life to those who find them, and healing to all their flesh.

Proverbs 16:24 ESV / 64 helpful votes

Gracious words are like a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul and health to the body.

Matthew 11:28 ESV / 61 helpful votes

Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.

Isaiah 54:17 ESV / 61 helpful votes

No weapon that is fashioned against you shall succeed, and you shall confute every tongue that rises against you in judgment. This is the heritage of the servants of the Lord and their vindication from me, declares the Lord.”

Psalm 103:2-3 ESV / 60 helpful votes

Bless the Lord, O my soul, and forget not all his benefits, who forgives all your iniquity, who heals all your diseases,

James 4:7 ESV / 59 helpful votes

Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.

Hebrews 11:6 ESV / 59 helpful votes

And without faith it is impossible to please him, for whoever would draw near to God must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who seek him.

Acts 4:30 ESV / 59 helpful votes

While you stretch out your hand to heal, and signs and wonders are performed through the name of your holy servant Jesus.”

2 Corinthians 12:9 ESV / 58 helpful votes

But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me.

Romans 5:3-4 ESV / 57 helpful votes

More than that, we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope,

Jeremiah 30:17 ESV / 57 helpful votes

For I will restore health to you, and your wounds I will heal, declares the Lord, because they have called you an outcast: ‘It is Zion, for whom no one cares!’

Numbers 12:13 ESV / 57 helpful votes

And Moses cried to the Lord, “O God, please heal her—please.”

Isaiah 57:18 ESV / 54 helpful votes

I have seen his ways, but I will heal him; I will lead him and restore comfort to him and his mourners,

Psalm 6:2 ESV / 51 helpful votes

Be gracious to me, O Lord, for I am languishing; heal me, O Lord, for my bones are troubled.

Philippians 4:6-7 ESV / 48 helpful votes

Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

Hebrews 13:8 ESV / 47 helpful votes

Jesus Christ is the same yesterday and today and forever.

Luke 4:18 ESV / 47 helpful votes

“The Spirit of the Lord is upon me, because he has anointed me to proclaim good news to the poor. He has sent me to proclaim liberty to the captives and recovering of sight to the blind, to set at liberty those who are oppressed,

2 Corinthians 5:7 ESV / 43 helpful votes

For we walk by faith, not by sight.

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Hebrews 11:1 ESV / 42 helpful votes

Now faith is the assurance of things hoped for, the conviction of things not seen.

Isaiah 57:18-19 ESV / 42 helpful votes

I have seen his ways, but I will heal him; I will lead him and restore comfort to him and his mourners, creating the fruit of the lips. Peace, peace, to the far and to the near,” says the Lord, “and I will heal him.

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