Dear Misty,

You don’t need to hide from him. It is your fear that feeds his power. It doesn’t matter if he know your location. You can call the police anytime if you have concern for your safety.

Please also call the helpline for more resources:
National Domestic Violence (US) at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)

May Angels Around
Protect and Guide You

Dear Nason, wake up, please wake up …

He is taking advantage of your weakness and executing his plan to take away your strength and freedom. An abusive relationship like this will only get worse. For you daughter and for yourself, please make the RIGHT decision to leave NOW.

The police cannot help you if you are willingly stay with him and…[Read more]

Dear William,

Travelers Aid should be able to help you and your family:

Family Guidance Center

2358 Fairlane Drive, Building E, Montgomery, AL , 36116
Phone: (334) 270-4100
Website: http://familyguidancecenter.org/

1605 5th Avenue North, Birmingham, AL, 35203
Phone: (205) 322-5426
Website: http://www.travelersaidbirmingham.org/

You can also…[Read more]

Dear Kristy,

Let’s look at one thing at a time:

If your relationship relies on "obey him at all costs" and "being submissive to my partner", then it sounds to me more like slavery than love.

I am not sure why this has anything to do with religion or the Bible being true or not, unless your "him" and "partner" here is referring God.

If you…[Read more]

Dear Jimmy,

Which city you are in? Is there any shelter nearby that can help?

Multiple HHS agencies provide programs that improve the well-being of people with disabilities. Learn more about programs for people with disabilities and locate resources:

Disabilities (Healthfinder.gov)
Information about disabilities from healthfinder.gov, a…[Read more]

Dear Nor

Thank you for sharing your story.
If the relationship has been falling apart again and again, I think you will agree that both you and others share some responsibility. I believe you have been asking yourself many times and trying to find out what’s wrong …
 
Since it is harder to change others, it would be easier to change ourselves…[Read more]

Hi There, please don’t just assume and please keep asking for help.

You said "I can’t talk to my parents, or the guidance counselor, they can’t do anything. I can’t talk to a therapist, we can’t afford it. I can’t call a hotline, I don’t have minutes on my phone. I can’t talk to my friends, I don’t trust them. What should I do?".

If you tell…[Read more]

Dear Lisa,

I think you did great and achieve a lot. It is always difficult to change the routine and habit, so please don’t give up.

You have been taking good care of others and I think it is time for you to take good care of yourself. I would suggest a gym membership, health club, meditation, and some other local event/courses that you might…[Read more]

I have to disagree. Life is a fair!

Please see how Mother Teresa describe it:

Life is an opportunity, benefit from it.
Life is beauty, admire it.
Life is a dream, realize it.
Life is a challenge, meet it.
Life is a duty, complete it.
Life is a game, play it.
Life is a promise, fulfill it.
Life is sorrow, overcome it.
Life is a song, sing…[Read more]

Dear Maggie,

True, there are always people just don’t know what to say or don’t care enough, but I would believe that’s not the majority.

I would look at this from a different perspective:
You must be a wonderful person to others around. Your strength, kindness, and being a great listener make them want to open up to you and share with you their…[Read more]

Dear Loca,

You have my respect. I think you are a strong fighter and has been trying your best to handle the challenges life throws at you.

We are not born equal. You were raised in a toxic "pond". Without a healthy environment, resources, and guidance, you made some mistakes and fall. However, you stand up, again and again. I am sure you can…[Read more]

Hi Karl,

I will be very honest and to the point:

We should invest in relationships that are rewarding to both parties. This relationship you are having is hurting you and others, and the other party don’t want to commit to it at all. It is killing you. Please stop. You deserve much better than this. You will find the true love you have been…[Read more]

My dear friend, this is not annoying in any way. Everyone need help and advice in our lives. You made the great first step.

Here are five steps to intervene in that downward spiral:
https://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-6716/5-Ways-to-Stop-A-Downward-Spiral.html

Please talk with your parents and the school councilor this week. If you don’t know where…[Read more]

Dear Yasmine,

I have one very simple suggestion right now: Exercise

I would like to to go to a gym as often as you can (at least three times a week). It will be even better if you can sign up for some exercise program offered there.   

Yasmine, in these tough and sleepless nights, please look at the star in the sky and do realize what you see…[Read more]

Dear Elena,

Please call 211 right now and ask to be referred to local agencies that can help you.
http://www.unitedwayncfl.org/211

Here are some other resources I found in Traveler’s Aid:

Travelers Aid International Members

Catholic Charities/Lake City

553 NW Railroad St.Lake City, FL, 32055
Phone: (386)…[Read more]

Hi Tisha,

Sorry for the lost and thank you for sharing your story.

Everyone in this world is amazingly unique. It is hard to understand why he made such decision. I am sure he didn’t know it would hurt you so badly and break your heart everyday …

I am sure he felt the same as you about finding the love of life. He was so exited and happy, at…[Read more]

Dear Tiffany,

Have you contacted Travelers Aid?

Need Help?

Community Link

601 E. 5th St., Suite 220, Charlotte, NC, 28202
Phone: (704) 943-9490
Website: http://communitylinknc.org/
Travelers Aid at Cornerstone: Wake County

220 Snow Ave., P.O. Box 550, Raleigh, NC, 27603
Phone: 919-212-7000
Website:…[Read more]

Dear Anonymous,

If you die three years ago, the events you listed would most likely happen anyway. It could be even worse.

Instead, because you are living, you spent valuable time with your dying grandpa and pets; you helped your disabled mother and aging father …

In short term, it might not get better, but if you keep a positive mind set,…[Read more]

Dear Friend,

Thank you for sharing your story with us.
Are you seeing a doctor about the depression and pain? I strongly suggest you talk with school councilor or your parents, and ask for professional help.

"it seems like everyone is living better than I am" – This is just how it seems, but everyone has his/her own difficulties to deal with.…[Read more]

Dear Anonymous Girl,

My answer is that he is too young and same to you for worrying about age difference.

Love is wonderful, but it is a commitment that most likely to be broken at this young age. Friendship is one of the most beautiful things. It could be long-term and very rewarding. I strongly suggest that you keep this beautiful friendship…[Read more]